I don’t know about you, but most of my friends are either older than me by several years, or much more mature than I am. This means that even though I’m still in my early twenties, I constantly feel and act like I’m pushing 30. The horror!
When your friend group is filled with people who are older than you, you get used to feeling like you’re older, like you have to worry about retirement and all that. I’m giving myself three more years before I even think about retirement, but there are also, more subtle ways that being friends with older people changes your life.
They’re all having kids
This is weird. But it’s also awesome, because you get to play with cutie, baby kids without any of the responsibility. You also get to see what it’s like to have kids and how it completely changes your outlook and the way you live your life. It’s like taking a teeny peek into a potential future.
Plus, these kids are the most fun to spoil and play with, and at the end of the day you can hand them back to mommy and make them clean the spit-up.
Going to bed at 11 p.m. on a Friday is SOP for them, and thus, sometimes for you
So I guess you need more sleep when you get older? Older people who are married and have normal work schedules and such (not I) are dead tired on Friday nights. So while I’m texting everyone like “LET’S TURN UP ON A FRIYAY” they’re all like, “Wine and bed. That’s all I can do tonight.” So what to do? Wine and bed it is, in your own home. Womp.
You spend a lot of money on being in weddings
Being a bridesmaid costs a small fortune. I could fund the governments of several third-world countries with the money I spent on my sisters’ weddings, and it’s not over yet. Also—bachelorette parties will empty your savings account.
The slight generation difference means they watched shows/listened to music that you had no idea existed
When my sisters and older friends talk about Jem and Fraggle Rock I’m all, “but what about Barney?” Barney was soooo your generation, they say. Apparently, three to five years is a pretty big culture gap.
You constantly learn from their life experiences and/or mistakes
Having friends older than you means you have no shortage of good and bad examples of what to do. Looking for an apartment, filing taxes, choosing a job, and all those annoying things are made just slightly easier when someone else has done them before you. You have so many people to ask for advice and you definitely learn from their missteps and bad calls.
They baby you
And not always in a cute way. It can get pretty condescending, because they assume you’re the baby and inexperienced (which is true, in a way) and so they’re all like, “Psshhh, what do you know about that?” and “In my day…” all jokingly. It’s not always appreciated.
You can hang, but often they can’t
On birthdays, we go to dinner and then out afterward. All of the older peeps peace out at midnight. Not cool. Everyone knows the best music comes on between 1 and 3 a.m.
They probably have more money than you
Which means they like the second glass of wine, or hell, the whole bottle, instead of little you in the corner, trying to figure out if you should spring for the $9 Malbec over the $7 Montepulciano. Decisions! They can also afford fancy vacations to Greece or Costa Rica, and you’re just trying to pay off your credit card debt. But if you’re lucky and you save your pennies, you can tag along when they venture to the Bahamas.
You can crash at their houses, not just the couch in their teeny apartments
People with older friends know the luxury of staying in guest rooms with clean sheets, instead of lumpy couches or leaking air mattresses (or the bathtub) after nights out. In the morning, their Keurigs are the multi-cup kind, and clean bathrooms abound. You may even get some eggs in the bargain.
It’s a special place.