During times of difficulty, whether it be an illness, job loss, or breakup, we need to become our own best friend. It is so hard, when you’re already down, not to spiral into a cycle of self-pity or even worse, self-loathing.
We all have inner strengths that we can use to rally our bodies and minds when needed. It is good to identify these strengths ahead of time so you are ready next time life gives you a hit that you weren’t expecting. Time to send that self-doubt packing and channel your inner strength.
Know that challenge is the human experience
The first step to channeling your inner strength is to understand that when challenges come, it’s ok. It does not mean that you’ve failed, that you are less worthy or less talented than someone else. Life brings disappointments to all of us from time to time. If you are going through something, know that you are not lesser because of it, and that you are not alone either.
Believe in yourself
The next step is to believe in yourself. Believe that you do have strengths you can use to get through this. You must believe your ability to come out of any challenge stronger and more prepared.
“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained” – Marie Curie
Allow the feelings
Ah, the Pollyannas of the world. Look, it’s great to be an optimistic, genuinely happy person. But there’s a difference between someone who is channeling his or her inner strength and someone who just puts on a happy front. Feelings never get worked through if you do not face them. It takes a lot more courage to be vulnerable sometimes and admit, yeah I’m having a crappy day.
As Oprah said, “Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.”
See better things on the horizon
Once you have accepted what you are going through and your feelings for what they are, it’s time to dream. When things are hard, we can start thinking it will always be so. But it never is. Aspects of your life will always be moving and changing. Know that this too will pass.