Ariana Grande posted a rant on Twitter yesterday, and it’s going massively viral — probably because she’s so right. The young singer and actress posted a long (by twitter standards, at least) rant, describing how differently the world (and the media) treats male sexuality and female sexuality, and calling for the media to be a force in putting a stop to the treatment.
It seems that the spur for her declaration was being referred to as ‘Sean’s ex.’ After her split with rapper Big Sean, she noted that she was still being described in terms of him — still being described as the posession of a man, even when she wasn’t involved with anyone. In fact, she says, society and the media have made her spend the past eight years — since she entered the public eye at age 13 in a Disney show — feeling as though her value as a person is diminished if she isn’t involved with a guy.
Here’s her full statement, as she shared it on Twitter:
Some key points from her commentary:
If a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter)…. she’s a “slut”.
If a man has sex…. HE’S. A. STUD. a BOSSSSSSS. a KING.
If a woman even TALKS about sex openly…. she is shamed!
But if a man talks or RAPS freely about all the women (or more commonly used “”b****es”/”hoes”… how lovely) he’s had… he is regaled.
She goes on to make a reference to how the media handles intergender friendships, saying that if she’s seen with a male friend, people jump to conclusions and assume there’s a sexual relationship.
Can we just stop and think about the message that we’re sending if a 13-year-old girl (as Ariana Grande was 8 years ago) already feels like she’s of no particular value unless she’s got a boyfriend?